Self love is something I've been contemplating and working on. Today being Valentine's day, I've been thinking a lot about love.
It’s been so nice to see so many beautiful messages of love over social media. As much as it's a silly tradition, how nice is it, given the turmoil and hurt this world is challenged by, to see people being kind and emanating a little extra sparkle?
You’ve probably heard people say, “You need to love yourself before you can love others.” I’ve always struggled with this concept because I know I love this world, my family, my friends, my partner and my cheeky devil doggo SO much. Yet I find I can easily not act out of love toward myself. Hence the practice of loving of myself has been getting a lot of thought and attention.
Traditionally, I know you pick just one Valentine but I’ve never been one to pick favourites, so I’m going with multiple. I would like every single one of YOU, who offer me so much support and encouragement to be my Valentine (should you accept this rose ;)). I'm also going to give a rose to me. An act of love toward myself. Perhaps you would like to do the same?
Think about why your loved ones love you? Even just one little thing. It’s not easy for many of us to say nice things about ourselves but it’s not arrogant or tooting your own horn, so to speak. It’s honest and its NICE! I was thinking of how I would validate that to myself in an Uber earlier today and here’s what I came up with.
How amazing does it make you feel when you see a loved one smile that beautiful smile when they are proud of themselves? When I see someone I love's face acknowledge what I see in them everyday, even if just for a split second, it gives me the most immense joy.
Here's a little example: my sister is like Wonder Woman to me. I tell her all the time. In November she took me to her university graduation dinner and I said, “HARRIET! You just graduated as a nurse! You worked so bloody hard the last three years and YOU DID IT!” She said, “I know!" and I’ll never forget her sweet little face. A humble pride. An acknowledgment of her hard earned achievements and a belief in her own limitless future. I didn't think her acknowledgement was arrogant in the slightest! It made me so full of joy to see that in that moment she saw what I saw in her.
Have a think; remove your critical hat and put on the compassionate one. Be kind to yourself. Really try to see a glimpse of how your loved ones see you and use that.
Be your own Valentine. You are 100% worthy.
Lots of love to you, my Valentine!
You know who you are.